With Valentine’s Day around the corner, romance is a hot topic these days, but when you’re in a relationship (especially if you have children), romance can often be hard to come by.
Date night for a lot of couples usually consists of going to dinner or a movie. Not a lot of romance or sexiness there. So how are couples supposed to keep the ‘spark’ alive with ho-hum dates sprinkled sparsely in between bedtimes, midnight wake-ups, work and carpool?
I started trying to think up sexy date ideas and ways to spice things up in a relationship but realized I needed to include a man’s opinion (since my idea of ‘spice’ can be a little different than the male species).
So I sat down with my hubs and asked him what his ideas was of a truly sexy date. After some blog-inappropriate suggestions, he gave me some good ideas (thanks love).
Try one (or all) of these ideas for spicing up any date night:
Try a sexy flick instead of your standard rom com or Nicholas Sparks book-turned-movie. Try ’50 Shades of Gray’ or one of these 11 movies sexier than 50 shades. Whether you’re at home or at the theater, a hot movie can be a great way to set the mood for a fun date. And I’m not suggesting that you have to watch porn (but if that’s your thing, go for it), I’m just saying think outside of the box a bit.
Send a racy pic during your date. If you’re planning on wearing something a little special underneath your date night outfit or after the date, snap a photo before you go and send it to him during the date. This doesn’t have to be something over sexual, but more of just a little something to peak his interest. Think a shot of lace on your thigh or the strap on your non-beige bra. Just enough to let him know that you put some thought into doing something different and special for him.
Get a tattoo in a secret place only he will see. If you’re not willing to go under the needle, I totally get it, so fake it. Fake tattoos have come along way from cheesy skulls and crossbones to more subtle realistic and even metallic styles. Place it on you hip, buns or even in the side boob region. He’ll be surprised (and turned on) once you reveal it. You can even send him a pic during dinner without revealing it’s location to get his imagination going.
Try role playing. Does your husband have a celebrity crush or a fantasy girl? Indulge him a little bit by showing up to your date dressed as his favorite actress or Natalia the Russian Spy (or whatever does it for him). Don a wig, change up your makeup, try out a new accent. If you think he’ll go with it, keep it hush hush until he shows up but if he’s not so big on surprises, you might want to give him a heads up so that you don’t get a ‘what the hell are you doing?’ look when he gets there. It will be different and exciting for both of you, plus you get extra bonus points for satisfying one of his fantasies.
Get naked. OK I know what you’re thinking. This one sounds a little extreme (I thought the same thing when my husband suggested it). But, while it may not be for everyone, it will no doubt spice up an ordinary date night (at home of course, get your mind out of the gutter people). It does require for your kids to be out of the house so send them off to Grandma’s or a friends for a sleepover. Try cooking dinner together in the nude (just practice safe cooking, nothing can sour a date night faster than a trip to the ER). Or grab some fluffy, fuzzy blankets, your favorite cocktail, and cuddle up in front of a fire or a hot movie. This is a sure fire way to create a sexy mood (and it’s budget-friendly, since you can’t exactly go out).
Keeping the spark alive is important to any relationship. Remember to take time to show your spouse how much they really mean to you and that they still ‘do it’ for you.
I will be trying out these ideas for upcoming date nights with the hubs (though # 5 is going to require a bit more planning, a maybe an extra glass of wine).
Any other ideas for spicing up ordinary date nights?